Making friends isn’t always easy, especially if you’re autistic and find social situations overwhelming or hard to figure out. Traditional socialising can feel unpredictable and a little stressful, which makes connecting with others tricky. But that’s where face-to-face gaming comes in! It’s a fun and natural way to meet people who share your interests, build friendships, and practice social skills – without the pressure of typical social settings. Plus, gaming creates a structured and supportive environment where you can just be yourself while having a great time.
In this post, we’ll explore how face-to-face gaming can help autistic people make friends, why it works so well, and how to find inclusive gaming spaces where you feel safe and welcome.
Why face-to-face gaming helps autistic people make friends
Gaming is a fantastic way to connect with others, and when played in person, it offers even more benefits for autistic individuals. Here’s why face-to-face gaming can be a great way to make friends:
- Shared interests create natural connections – Talking about a shared hobby, like gaming, is easier than starting a conversation from scratch.
- Predictable and structured interactions – Games provide clear rules, objectives, and turn-taking, reducing the uncertainty of socialising.
- Less pressure for eye contact or small talk – The focus on the game itself removes the expectation of constant conversation – just the occasional chat about the game itself.
- Opportunities for teamwork and cooperation – Many games encourage teamwork, building trust and camaraderie.
- A safe, inclusive environment – Gaming communities can be supportive spaces where autistic people feel valued and understood.

How to approach social interactions in face-to-face gaming
Meeting new people in a social gaming environment can feel overwhelming at first, but the good news is that gaming naturally makes social interactions easier. The shared focus on the game takes the pressure off, and you don’t have to worry about making conversation out of thin air. Here are some simple and practical ways to feel more comfortable and make meaningful connections during face-to-face gaming sessions.
1. Start with a shared interest
One of the best things about gaming is that it gives you a built-in topic to talk about. If you’re unsure how to start a conversation, simply ask about the game!
- “What’s your favourite game character and why?”
- “Do you have a favourite strategy for this game?”
- “What games do you recommend?”
Most gamers love talking about their favourite games, so asking questions like these can be an easy way to start a friendly conversation. Plus, if you find someone who shares your enthusiasm for a specific game or genre, that can be the start of a great friendship!
2. Choose games that support your strengths
Not all games require the same kind of social interaction, so picking games that play to your strengths can make it easier to feel comfortable.
- If you like strategy and planning, board games, card games, and turn-based RPGs (like Dungeons & Dragons and Magic: The Gathering) can be great options. These games give you time to think before making decisions, which can help reduce social pressure.
- If you prefer fast-paced interactions, multiplayer video games (such as Mario Kart, Smash Bros) can provide a fun way to engage with others without needing much conversation.
- If you like problem-solving and teamwork, cooperative games (such as Super Mario Party Jamboree, Vampire Slayer: The Resurrection, or HeroQuest) allow you to work alongside others towards a common goal, encouraging natural communication.

Trying different types of games can also help you discover what feels best for you socially.
3. Be open to different social styles
Not everyone in a gaming group will interact in the same way, and this is especially true in autism-friendly spaces. Some autistic people might be super chatty and excited to share their gaming knowledge, while others may prefer to focus on the game itself and talk less. Both styles are totally okay!
Autistic people often have different communication preferences – some might enjoy deep discussions about game mechanics or lore, while others prefer minimal verbal interaction and express themselves more through gameplay. Some may take longer to warm up in social settings, and that’s completely normal.
If someone is more talkative, you don’t have to feel pressured to match their energy – just engage at a level that feels comfortable for you.
Likewise, if someone is quieter, don’t assume they don’t want to interact. Many autistic people communicate in ways that may not always involve a lot of words, and that’s perfectly valid.
Gaming provides a great way to connect at your own pace. Whether it’s through strategising in a board game, working together in a co-op video game, or simply sharing a mutual love of a favourite franchise, friendships can develop naturally. Respecting different communication styles makes it easier to build connections without feeling like you have to change who you are.
4. Take breaks when needed
Socialising – even in a fun and structured setting – can be tiring. It’s okay to step away for a break when you need to recharge. At Ignition Gamers, you’re welcome to step outside, take a breath of fresh air or have a walk around to reset. We understand that everyone needs a break sometimes, and our team is always there to support you if you need a moment before jumping back into the game.
Some ways to give yourself a reset:
- Step away from the game for a few minutes to stretch, get a drink, or take a deep breath.
- Bring headphones or a stim toy if that helps you self-regulate in social spaces.
- Let people know you’re stepping away, especially in a group setting, so they understand you’ll be back.

5. Attend regularly to build familiarity
Friendships don’t happen overnight – they take time to develop. The more you show up at gaming sessions, the more familiar people will become, making it easier to connect over time.
Here’s why attending regularly helps:
- People will start recognising you, which makes future interactions smoother.
- You’ll feel more comfortable as the environment becomes familiar.
- It becomes easier to initiate conversations as you build rapport with other players.
If you struggle with knowing when or how to join a group, try sitting in the same spot each time or playing the same game type – familiarity makes interactions easier. Over time, you’ll start feeling like a natural part of the group, and others will begin to include you in conversations and activities more naturally.
At Ignition Gamers, we understand that social situations can feel overwhelming at first, which is why our one-to-one peer support workers are there to support you. Whether you need help joining a game, starting a conversation, or feeling more at ease, our peer support workers – who have lived experience – will guide you at your own pace.
6. Find the right group for you
Not all gaming groups are the same. Some are super competitive, while others are more relaxed and social. Finding a group that matches your style can make all the difference.
If a particular gaming environment feels too intense, don’t feel discouraged – there are plenty of other groups out there! Autism-friendly gaming spaces like Ignition Gamers are designed to be inclusive and welcoming, making them a great place to start.

By choosing the right group, playing games that suit your strengths, and taking social interactions at your own pace, you can build friendships through face-to-face gaming in a natural and fun way.
How face-to-face gaming builds social confidence for autistic people
Gaming isn’t just about having fun – it can also help autistic individuals develop confidence in social settings. Here’s how:
- Practising social skills in a low-stress environment – Turn-taking, teamwork, and communication naturally occur within games.
- Creates a sense of belonging – Being part of a gaming group fosters community and connection.
- Encourages self-expression – Role-playing games and creative storytelling allow for self-exploration in a safe space.
- Developing communication skills – Gaming helps you learn how to ask for what you need in a group or team setting. This could be asking for a turn, suggesting a strategy, or requesting help. It’s a great way to practice expressing yourself clearly and confidently without disrupting the camaraderie.
- Provides repeated social exposure – Regular gaming sessions help build familiarity and ease anxiety over time.
How to turn gaming friends into real-world friends
Making friends through face-to-face gaming is just the first step – here’s how to strengthen those friendships outside of game sessions:
- Exchange contact information – Swap Discord handles, gamer tags, or phone numbers with people you enjoy gaming with.
Did you know that Ignition Gamers has its own Discord channel? This safe, inclusive space is actively monitored to ensure respectful communication. It’s a great way to keep in touch, share gaming experiences, and continue building friendships beyond our face-to-face
- Suggest other meetups – If you feel comfortable, invite your new friends to another event or a casual hangout.
- Join online communities – Many gaming groups have online spaces where you can chat and keep in touch between sessions.
- Be yourself – The best friendships come from being authentic, so don’t feel pressured to mask or change who you are.

Face-to-face gaming is a fantastic way for autistic people to make friends
Making friends as an autistic person can feel daunting, but face-to-face gaming offers a structured, engaging, and welcoming way to connect with others. Whether you enjoy video games, board games, or tabletop RPGs, gaming provides a shared activity that reduces social pressure while fostering genuine friendships.
If you’re looking for an inclusive and autism-friendly gaming community, Ignition Gamers provides safe and supportive sessions where you can build friendships, boost confidence, and have fun. Why not give it a try? Book your free trial session today!